I’ll write about this briefly, though it is such a long, tragic story. Payson’s sister, Ilya Sandra Perlingieri, died yesterday. She had a tragic life but her death was redeemed. She had been estranged from her whole family, including her children, being a difficult person, living from the center of her ego (very accomplished and educated; a writer, singer, feminist: the list is long and I have many chores to do today). Great good fortune and the help of friends and of course, Papa Payson, reunited her with her children before her death. Her son was astounded by two facts: “All her ego is gone!” he wrote before her death; and “she keeps saying, Love is the only thing that matters.”

This is a great legacy from someone whose life had been one long travail due to her ego (wanting everything her own way) and the inability to love. May we all remember to keep our ego, that puts grids on Reality, in check, and learn to love openly before we die.